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For Engaged Couples Who Want To Build
A Healthy Marriage

The Truth About Your Relationship

You love each other. You’re excited about the wedding. You’re committed to making this work. 

But There’s A Problem You Both Feel:

You keep triggering each other. The same fight repeats. One of you pursues, the other withdraws. Communication breaks down. Trust feels fragile. You’re starting to wonder: “Are we going to end up like our parents?”

And that question terrifies you—because you’ve both seen what happens when two wounded people try to build a marriage on unhealed pain.

Common Patterns We See:

  • One partner needs constant reassurance; the other feels suffocated
  • Conflict is avoided until someone explodes
  • Trust issues from past betrayals or family patterns
  • Fear of commitment or fear of abandonment
  • Repeating toxic patterns you swore you’d never repeat
  • Fighting about small things when the real issue is: “Do you see me? Am I safe with you?”

What’s Really Happening

Here’s what most couples don’t realize:

You didn’t just fall in love. You also brought your wounds to the table.

  • Feel desperate for help
  • Need more than Sunday morning can give
  • Sit across from someone and say, “I don’t know how to fix this”
  • Feel shame for needing counseling as a Christian
  • Wonder if freedom is even possible

SYMBIS = Saving Your
Marriage Before It Starts

This isn’t a weekend retreat. This isn’t a checklist. This is deep, healing work before you say “I do.”

Phase 1: Assessment

  • Complete the SYMBIS assessment (15 key areas of marriage) (30 minutes of your time).
  • Identify your attachment styles and how they interact.
  • Understand your family-of-origin patterns.
  • See where you’re strong and where you’re vulnerable.

Phase 2: Healing Before
the Wedding

  • Address your individual wounds – The pain you’re bringing into the marriage.
  • Understand your attachment patterns – Why you respond the way you do in conflict.
  • Break generational cycles – Stop repeating what your parents did.
  • Learn healthy communication – How to fight without destroying each other.
  • Build emotional safety – Create a marriage where both of you feel seen and secure.
  • Address spiritual strongholds – Where has the enemy gained ground in your relationship?

Phase 3: Practical Tools

  • Conflict resolution skills – Specific tools for your unique dynamic.
  • Intimacy and connection – Emotional, spiritual, and physical.
  • Finances and expectations Getting on the same page
  • Roles and responsibilities – Building partnership, not competition.
  • Spiritual Foundation – Inviting God into the center of your marriage.

What Makes This Different

This Isn’t Generic Premarital Advice.

We address:

  • Your specific wounds and how they’re already affecting your relationship.
  • Generational patterns you’re both unconsciously repeating
  • Biblical foundation for marriage rooted in secure attachment to God and each other
  • Attachment issues that create pursue-withdraw cycles
  • Spiritual warfare targeting your relationship before you even say “I do”
  • The goal: Build a marriage where both of you feel emotionally safe, spiritually connected, and equipped to handle conflict without destroying intimacy.

What To Expect At Bethesda
Christian Counseling

Every Session Includes:

✓ Biblical foundation
Scripture as our authority and guide
✓ Spiritual warfare awareness
Recognizing and breaking enemy strongholds
✓ Confidentiality
What you share stays between us (with legal exceptions)
✓ Spirit-led approach
Attachment-focused, trauma-informed pastoral care
✓ Prayer
Inviting the Holy Spirit into every session
✓ Bilingual services
English & Spanish available
✓ Flexible scheduling
In-person or secure video sessions

This is pastoral counseling (ministry-based),
not clinical therapy.

I am NCCA Licensed (National Christian Counselors Association), not
state-licensed for clinical practice. This means:

  • Insurance does not cover pastoral counseling
  • All services are private-pay
  • This is Christ-centered, biblically-based ministry with counseling tools
  • I do not diagnose or treat mental health disorders
  • I provide spiritual guidance, biblical counseling, and pastoral care

If you need clinical therapy with insurance:

 can provide referrals to licensed clinical therapists.

If you’re in crisis

Call 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline)

Who This Is For

You need SYMBIS premarital counseling if:

You love each other but keep
triggering wounds

Trust issues are present (from past
relationships or family wounds)

One pursues, one withdraws—and
it’s creating distance

One pursues, one withdraws—and
it’s creating distance

You come from divorced or
dysfunctional families

You come from divorced or
dysfunctional families

Communication breaks down
or conflict feels scary

You want a Christ-centered marriage
built on truth, not just feelings

Languages: English & Spanish (Bilingual)

SYMBIS Package Investment:

Investment: [Contact for Pricing]

6-8 sessions including comprehensive assessment

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